Many of us were brought up not to feel. You may have had messages like, "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" or "Why are you so miserable?" or "Why can't you be grateful?" or "Nice girls don't get angry.", or similar.

The focus here is not to criticise those who gave those messages, not at all; our parents or caregivers did the best they could. It is however, to explain how powerful our negative emotions can be. If, we can find the courage to face and feel them, until we get relief, we will find joy on the other side.

Wind the clock back 30 years and I was a broken, insecure sad young woman who had her life ahead of her, but was unable to see that.